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Dad emails daughter 10 months after his death: “Follow my instructions completely and carefully”

By Pam Pastor
06/11/20 7:09 PM

When Aly Mendoza received an email from her dad, she was afraid to open it. “Who wouldn’t be scared to get and open an email from someone who passed away 10 months ago?” she wrote in a Facebook post. “Plus, it was 3:00 a.m., I was finishing requirements and I was the only one awake in our whole house.”

Two days later, she finally got the courage to open her father’s message. “I couldn’t believe what I was reading. My dad’s love for my mom IS definitely immeasurable.”

He wrote:

“Alyssa, follow my instructions in this e-mail completely and carefully. I am sending this to you in the off chance that I’m not in my right mind or worse, gone. I hope not.” 

It was going to be Aly’s parents’ 25th anniversary and her dad Bing was determined to make sure his wife knew how much she was loved, even from beyond the grave. 

“The e-mail contained instructions for me for their anniversary celebration this year,” Aly shared. 

Before his death, Bing had talked to a florist and paid for birthday, Valentine’s day and anniversary flowers for his wife for the coming years. (Are you crying yet?) He instructed the florist to contact Aly every Valentine’s Day, every June 10 (their wedding anniversary) and every August 19 (Aly’s mom’s birthday) to make sure her mom gets the flowers. 

“My dad picked the flowers in her bouquet. White roses are special to my parents because when my dad was courting her, my mom had two suitors. She told herself that whoever gives her white roses was ‘the one’ and obviously it was my dad who gave her white roses. Pink roses because dada knows that mamu loves light pink roses,” Aly wrote.

The flowers were just one part of the surprise. 

Her father wrote:

“Ask Mommy what she wants to eat and make a reservation at the restaurant for the three of us. If she says whatever you want, force her to pick. Hopefully, I’ll be able to drive already this time next year.” 

“If I’m still in this condition and I pray not, knowing your mom, she’ll just say ‘order food and have it delivered.’ Make sure you get exactly what she wants. Try to look for some decorations kasi mahilig mag picture mommy mo para maganda mga picture. 

“Ask me for money so that can go to the salon and do whatever she does there on weekends.” 

Aly wrote, “The email also contained a letter that he wrote for my mom which had all the words she needed to hear from him to be okay. He literally thought of everything to make his great love feel all his love.”

She followed her father’s instructions. “Our helper and I started setting up for mom’s surprise at 11:00 p.m. last night and finished at 5:30 a.m. just in time for mom’s daily 6 a.m. alarm. Even though I lack sleep, the joy I saw in my mom’s face made everything worth it.”

Aly and their helper had done a beautiful job—balloons hung from the ceiling and attached to the end of their pink ribbons were photos of her parents. 

She posted a video of her mom crying as she looked at the photos while John Legend’s “All of Me” played in the background.

“Of course my mom cried because she misses the love of her life but I could see how happy everything made her because she knew that everything was planned by my dad,” Aly wrote.

Aly said, “They were supposed to celebrate their 25th silver wedding anniversary together today but God had other plans,” Aly wrote. “But even if they’re not physically together, even though he’s no longer here, he was still able to surprise and make my mom happy. Not even death could stop my dad from loving my mom and showing her how much she meant to him.”